“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”  What if the search for happiness is actually making us less happy? We live in a world where happiness is constantly marketed as the ultimate goal—chasing after it through success, wealth, relationships, and material pleasures. But have you ever noticed that no matter how much we achieve, there’s always something missing? That feeling of emptiness, of searching for something more, is the result of mistaking happiness for joy. In Joy in the Brambles, author Ross Palfreyman makes an essential distinction between these two concepts. He explains that while happiness is temporary and often dependent on circumstances, joy is a significant, lasting fulfillment that comes from service and a connection with God. In a world obsessed with momentary pleasure, this book offers a refreshing perspective on how true joy is found in giving, not just receiving. So, what exactly is the difference between happiness and joy? And why is joy the path to real fulfillment?

Most of us use happiness and joy interchangeably, but they are fundamentally different. Happiness is external, based on things like achievements, relationships, and circumstances. A promotion at work, buying a new car, or even a delicious meal can bring happiness—but it doesn’t last. The moment we lose the job, the car ages, or the meal is finished, happiness fades. On the other hand, joy is internal. It is not based on external factors but rather on our perspective, values, and stronger connections. Joy is something that can be present even in difficult times because it is rooted in meaning and purpose. Happiness is about feeling good; joy is about being fulfilled. Ross Palfreyman takes this distinction even further in Joy in the Brambles, showing us how joy is closely tied to faith and service. Unlike happiness, which is fleeting and often self-centered, joy grows when we focus on others and align ourselves with something greater than our own desires.

It’s no secret that our culture is obsessed with happiness. We see it everywhere—from self-help books promising a happier life to social media influencers showcasing their “perfect” moments. But have you ever noticed that the more we chase happiness, the harder it is to hold onto? This is because happiness often relies on external validation. The moment life takes a difficult turn—financial struggles, a broken relationship, or personal loss—our happiness disappears. Palfreyman’s book challenges us to think differently. Instead of chasing happiness, he encourages us to promote joy—a greater, more sustainable sense of fulfillment.

One of the most powerful ideas in Joy in the Brambles is that true joy is found in service to others. This is a concept that has been echoed throughout history, from religious teachings to modern psychological research. Mother Teresa once said, “A life not lived for others is not a life.” When we step outside ourselves and help others—whether through small acts of kindness or larger commitments to service—we tap into something much greater than momentary happiness. Palfreyman explains that service is not just about obligation or duty. It is a pathway to joy because it shifts our focus from “what do I need?” to “how can I contribute?” In doing so, we experience a deeper connection with others and, ultimately, with God.

Another crucial point in Joy in the Brambles is the role of faith in encouraging joy. While happiness is often tied to external rewards, joy is significantly connected to our spiritual foundation. Faith provides a sense of purpose, a guiding compass when life gets difficult. It teaches us that we are part of something much bigger than ourselves. Palfreyman’s book emphasizes that when we align our lives with God’s purpose, joy naturally follows.

Engaging in acts of service is one of the most powerful ways to grow lasting joy. Whether through small gestures like helping a neighbor, volunteering for a cause, or simply offering a listening ear to someone in need, acts of kindness create a ripple effect of positivity. Service shifts our focus from ourselves to others, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment that happiness alone cannot provide. Alongside service, practicing gratitude is essential in developing a joyful mindset. Instead of constantly chasing the next big thing, we should learn to appreciate what we already have. Gratitude transforms our perspective, shifting our mindset from scarcity to abundance and allowing us to find contentment in the present moment.

Ross Palfreyman has given us a thought-provoking and sincerely wise book that challenges conventional wisdom about happiness. In a world where people are constantly searching for fulfillment in fleeting pleasures, Joy in the Brambles offers a refreshing perspective on what truly matters. Instead of chasing happiness that fades, this book teaches us how to cultivate joy that lasts—through faith, service, and meaningful connections. Palfreyman’s writing is not only inspiring but also practical, offering readers real-life strategies to transform their perspective. If you’ve ever felt like something is missing in your pursuit of happiness, this book is for you. It’s not just another self-help book; it’s a guide to a life filled with lasting joy.